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Ep #275: Embracing Safety

Feminist Wellness with Victoria Albina | Embracing Safety

Emotional outsourcing develops as a survival skill in response to a felt or experienced lack of belonging, worthiness, and safety, generally during our developmental years. As a little one, you may have developed habits that helped you feel okay in an environment that didn’t give you what you needed, and this explains how your nervous…

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Ep #274: The Cost of Being Defensive

Feminist Wellness with Victoria Albina | The Cost of Being Defensive

How often do you find yourself erupting in defensiveness? Does receiving feedback or critique feel like a personal attack? Is your reactivity negatively impacting your relationships? And how can you course correct when you find yourself being defensive? If you’re ready to stop moving through the world feeling primed for an attack and are tired…

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Ep #272: Misguided Compassion

Feminist Wellness with Victoria Albina | Misguided Compassion

My wife Billey was recently talking about a term in Buddhism that parallels so much of what we tend to do in emotional outsourcing, and that term translates to “idiot compassion.” This specific term feels a bit harsh and judgmental to me, but there are other, similar phrases that carry the same meaning and can…

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Ep #271: Befriending Rest

Feminist Wellness with Victoria Albina | Befriending Rest

If you relate to my definition of emotional outsourcing tendencies, the thought of giving yourself true rest likely hasn’t crossed your mind in a hot minute. But have you ever wondered what it would be like to just call it and decide you’re not going to push through when your internal world is screaming for…

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Ep #269: Support Your Nervous System During Worrying Times

Feminist Wellness with Victoria Albina | Support Your Nervous System During Worrying Times

Something I’ve noticed in the Anchored community, and out in the world in general, is that there’s even more worry going around than usual. I get it. There are a lot of things going on that we could tell worried stories around, and our nervous systems jump to worry because they’re here to protect us.…

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