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How often do you catch yourself thinking or saying out loud, “Ugh, I hate conflict?” I hear it from my clients in Anchored all the time, and my darling, of course you avoid conflict. There are a few reasons why conflict can feel like a serious problem, especially if you’re mired in emotional outsourcing habits,…

Have you ever wondered what becoming someone with a secure attachment style would be like? Does it seem like a reality only the unicorns in our world get to experience? What if I told you there’s not only hope, but that it’s totally feasible for you to develop a secure attachment style too? This week,…

Do you ever feel like you’re constantly swooping in to save the day? This rescuer role is a common thread in codependent thinking. We give and give, even when we’re depleted, believing it’s the noble thing to do. But here’s the catch: rescuing loved ones and truly supporting them are two very different things. The…

I’m here today on this 4th of July, not to talk about independence but rather of interdependence. This is a vital topic for us to discuss here on the podcast, and I’m joined by my favorite person in the whole world, Billey Albina. The bedrock of interdependence is mutuality and reciprocity, which when put together,…

Much of my training is in somatic experiencing, which is largely about trauma resolution, where I help folks navigate trauma within their nervous systems. It’s easy to start talking about somatics solely within the context of stress, distress, and trauma, but the truth is there are so many more applications of this work than just…

For the longest time, I thought I was the only one rolling around in my emotional outsourcing, completely disconnected from my body. The truth is we often disconnect from our bodies as a way to get through life. I’ve since been in community with many humans who have helped themselves reconnect with their bodies, and…

Losing touch with the ability to tune into and trust your bodily signals, especially in the context of emotional outsourcing, is super common. In parts one and two of this mini-series, we’ve defined embodiment and some reasons for cultivating embodiment. And this week, as always, it’s time for the remedies. There’s a complex interplay here…

This week, I’m bringing you part 2 of my embodiment series on applying embodiment in daily life and healing. I’m diving deeper into embodiment in the context of emotional outsourcing, specifically in relation to our codependent, people-pleasing, and perfectionist habits. We are all embodied, it’s a spectrum. We can have different levels of embodiment and…

I’ve been studying and working with the nervous system and somatics for over 20 years, and in that time, embodiment has been a key concept I keep coming back to. While it’s a word that gets thrown around an awful lot, you’re not alone if you don’t know what it means, and that’s why we’re…

Emotional outsourcing develops as a survival skill in response to a felt or experienced lack of belonging, worthiness, and safety, generally during our developmental years. As a little one, you may have developed habits that helped you feel okay in an environment that didn’t give you what you needed, and this explains how your nervous…