Right now, you may feel anxious, defeated, and stuck.
Hi! I’m Victoria Albina, NP, MPH and I coach codependent women to stop being anxious, exhausted and overwhelmed, so they can have better relationships with their partners, parents and themselves.
I spent the first 30 years of my life stuck in codependent and perfectionist thinking.
Being mean to myself, often without even realizing it. Demanding "perfection" from myself, not knowing that I was already perfect and worthy of love (just like you).
Taking care of my partner, my parents, my work, my friends FIRST, leaving me with the measly crumbs leftover.
I spent my life giving away my time and energy, wondering why I was always so exhausted.
Does this resonate for you? Do you ever wonder why...
- Why you feel like you could never get this Adulting thing right.
- Why your belly always hurts?
- Why no one else takes care of you as you take care of them?
- Why no one truly understands you?
- Why you feel so alone, in a relationship or a room full of people?
- Why you can’t trust your own decisions in your life?
I felt allathis and so much more...
My energy, stomach, thoughts, and mood were a hot mess.
When it came down to it, I didn’t trust myself to show up for me in a real way.
So I mistreated myself in the most real of ways.
I dated people I knew were wrong for me and stayed with them for wayyyy too long.
I worried endlessly about the future or the past. And I had this sneaky, paralyzing belief that I was deeply broken.
I thought I needed someone to fix me - to put the broken pieces of myself back together.
The beginning of the end of this for me was realizing that I was that person, the healer I was looking for.
You know in your heart and mind that you’re smart, capable, and guided by Feminist ideals of equality and confidence...
but at the end of the day, you put everyone else first, and yourself last.
You crawl in bed at the end of the day without a flicker of energy to give to yourself.
You wake up every morning with the intention of finally starting that routine, taking that moment for yourself, and refocusing on what brings you joy in life.
But old patterns die hard, and when the day is done you’ve given to everyone else but yourself.
What I want you to realize, and celebrate, is that your brain and my body aren’t the problems: they are the answer.
By learning how to retrain my mind and my body, I took back control of my life. I learned that…
- My thoughts create my feelings.
- That I can retrain my brain using the power of neuroplasticity to believe new things.
- I am not stuck. And neither are you.
- I am not broken. And neither are you.
- I am my own best medicine. And so are you.
- I have the power to heal my mind, body, and spirit. And so do you.
And for you, this healing may look something like this:
Not cringing when your mom texts.
Stop panicking when your boss asks to talk with you.
Guilting yourself for taking care of you is a thing of the past.
To set smart boundaries with partners, friends, family and at work - without guilt.
To learn to listen to your body’s signals and to know exactly what you want and need - and to drop the shame around giving it to yourself.
To stop suffering by repeating your unintentional thoughts like they’re gospel.
To stop picking fights because you don’t know how else to feel heard.
To trust your gut feeling because you’ve done the challenging work of clearing other people’s thoughts about your life out of your head, heart and spirit/gut (like gut feeling)
To no longer try to control others because you know the one thing that you can control is your own mind, and that only you get to choose your thoughts and feelings.
To no longer seek to numb your feelings with TV.
I can help you go from anxious and stuck to flowing in life and love.
My work is the place where the science and the sacred meet - equal parts total nerd, modern-day witch, and asker-of-smart-questions.
>>I trained as a Nurse Practitioner in the best program in the US (University of California, San Francisco)
>> have a Masters Degree in Public Health
>> am a certified Breathwork Healing Facilitator
>> got certified as a Life Coach with The Life Coach School, the best boutique program in the country
>> have been in the world of health and wellness for 20 years.
I've worked in public health internationally and here in the US, and my darling, I've seen it all.
My most important credential ever is having learned how to love and accept myself as I am. And so can you!
I healed my wicked Irritable Bowel Syndrome (IBS), chronic reflux/heartburn and adrenals, through Functional Medicine, smart nutrition and most importantly, by learning how to calm and reset my nervous system (let’s hear it for the Polyvagal Theory!) to get my body out of the fight, flight and freeze so I could digest, rest, and learn how to manage the thinking that took me right back into that panic place.
- That panic place of dating people who I knew were wrong for me.
- That panic place of staying in a job that had stopped being healthy for me.
- That panic place of feeling exhausted, overwhelmed and irritable for 30 years.
- That panic place of never feeling comfortable in my own skin.
And I’m so excited to share what I’ve learned with you, my love.
Because you don’t have to live a life you don’t love.
You can live your life on your own terms, and I’m here to show you how.
I help smart women, like you, to understand the ways your childhood programmed your thinking to keep you feeling less-than, searching, lost, rolling around in codependent and perfectionist thinking.
And I’ll show you how to take your life, your power, your independence, your body, and your brain back so you can re-parent yourself, on the daily, with radical self-love and radical compassion.
Meditation and mindfulness have been life-savers for me, so I made you a set of beautiful meditation downloads that I'd love to share with you for free, because you're so worthy of love and care.
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What sets her apart from the rest is her genuine concern and respect for those she treats. I can’t express how grateful I am for her warmth, patience and understanding in her treatment of my father. Thank you Victoria!
ANITA SADATY, MD
Functional Medicine Physician
I can not say enough how much I appreciate Victoria. Her knowledge and innovation around nutrition, western medicine and holistic medicine make for a winning combination. Victoria made my health issues visible and my health solutions attainable. She is with you step by step on the journey.
New York, NY
Victoria is this refreshing combination of a holistic healer and medical professional wrapped up in a cloak of ancient female wisdom and modern herbal/food science. You get more out of one hour of coaching with her than many visits to a traditional therapist or doctor.
Los Angeles, CA
Victoria is a godsend. She sees the whole person and wants to get to the root cause of what’s wrong for you. I’ve sent so many people to her over the years, and everyone walks away happy. In short she’s a gem. I just wish there were more practitioners and life coaches like her!
San Francisco, CA