Posts by Victoria Albina

As emotional outsourcers, change is not always easy. But if you regularly tune in here, you might have realized that, with tiny kitten steps, change is absolutely possible, and starts with going down a path of getting unstuck, setting boundaries, and finding happiness in yourself. With the holiday season fast approaching, what may be prevalent…

A few weeks ago, I shared an episode about what codependent thinking can do in our lives and why interdependence is vital. I promised you an in-depth episode on what interdependence really looks like, and although overdue, it’s finally here this week.  Interdependence is a vital part of the remedy to white-settler colonialist, patriarchal, and…

I’m still in the throes of COVID, so while I take another week off on the couch eating soup under my comforter, I’m sharing a conversation I had a while back with my dear friend and tremendous coach Kara Loewentheil. We could not be more different in terms of our coaching styles, but we share…

  Although I promised you an episode this week on interdependence, I finally got the ‘Rona and don’t feel well. So, instead of being codependent and trying to people-please you, I’m digging into the treasure trove that is this podcast to share one of the most downloaded, most loved episodes of this show. In this…

  There is so much confusion about what codependency means, who can benefit from doing the work to overcome it, and what the goal actually is in overcoming codependent thinking. My life’s work is to bridge the gap in this confusion and to help you see where this habit is causing suffering in your life…

  If you’re a coach who’s wondering if Anchored is worth the investment, or if the work we do inside is relevant to your practice, you’re in the right place. I’ve gathered four amazing coaches together who have all been in Anchored at one point, and we’re sitting down to talk about how overcoming codependency,…

  As habitual emotional outsourcers, we tend to either blame others for our behaviors, choices, and results in our lives, or we take everything on as our fault. But what if there’s a middle path where, just maybe, not everything and everyone is the very worst or all sunshine and rainbows? Getting to neutral is…

Thought work and learning about the role of our thoughts as they interplay with our nervous systems is vital in our quest to be our best, most emotionally mature selves, which is what we’re all here for. However, there’s an interesting pattern I’ve seen play out in my clients and in myself, and it’s this:…

Do you ever have those days when you’ve got a seemingly never-ending to-do list, but your brain and body are simply not having it? Your internal world might be screaming, “No, this isn’t the thing I want or need to be doing!” And yet, we continue to push through with an energy of hustle and…

Following on from last week’s episode all about drama, this week, I’m diving into one way we unwittingly create drama in our lives: taking things personally. From a casual comment a friend or colleague makes, to a critical look a stranger seemed to point in your direction, we emotional externalizers are on the constant lookout…