Posts by Victoria Albina

Ep #72: Anatomy of an Apology

Anatomy of an Apology

Welcome to the first episode of a multi-part series on apologies. This is a huge topic, especially for those of us who have codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing thought habits. Whether you find apologizing challenging or uncomfortable, or whether you fall on the other end of the spectrum where the challenge is to stop constantly apologizing,…

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Accepting Our Racist Biases

For many White and White-passing folx starting the working of becoming anti-racist, we become so scared 😨 to do or say the wrong thing that we don’t do the work because we get stuck in that activated fear body.⁠ ⁠ And that’s where the work needs to start, to learn to be okay with being…

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Co-regulation is a vital human function.⁣⁠⁣ ⁣ Co-regulation happens when our autonomic nervous systems attune to another person, and there is an energetic exchange that helps both creatures to get into ventral vagal, to feel safe, secure and grounded in the moment.⁣⁠⁣ ⁣⁠⁣ I say creatures because while most of us think of this as…

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Bypassing a Challenging Feelings Makes it SO Much Harder to Change

If you’re White or White-passing and you’re starting to do the work of becoming anti-racist, you may feel a sense of urgency to change your thoughts 💭.⁠ ⁠ This is an attempt to create different feelings without really sitting with the painful 😖 truth.⁠ ⁠ It’s called emotional bypassing ⏭️.⁠ ⁠ And that simply doesn’t…

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Ep #71: The Fixer Thought Fantasy

The Fixer Thought Fantasy

Have you ever found yourself compelled to tell someone else how they should be living their life or what to do in a situation, especially when your opinion wasn’t asked for? This fixer thought fantasy is something I engaged in for most of my life, and if this sounds familiar to you, I’m here to…

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