Posts by Victoria Albina
Ep #175: Getting Anchored with Coach Molly Goodman
If you’ve spent a lifetime of time, energy, and effort seeking safety from other people and meticulously making sure everyone else is always looked after, but can’t shake the resentment and powerlessness that comes along with this habit, you’re not alone. The good news is that if what you’ve been doing so far hasn’t been…
Read MoreRescuing vs. Supporting
A key component of codependent thinking is the misguided belief that it is our job to rescue others. We’ll dive into the trope of the rescuer. Why and how we do it and what we can do instead of rescuing, which is to be supportive to the people we love. Codependent thinking is this really…
Read MoreEp #174: Polyvagal 101
Polyvagal theory and nervous system regulation have been a cornerstone of my medical practice in functional medicine and in my coaching work as a somatic life coach. I’ve talked a lot about polyvagal theory throughout these podcast episodes over the last three years, but I realized I’ve never done a full-on polyvagal 101, and it’s…
Read MoreDo I Stay or Do I Go in This Relationship? (Part 2)
Although I don’t have a crystal ball, and therefore can’t tell you whether to leave your relationship or not—what I can do is give you some information on the science behind relationships and attachment, can ask questions to spark some good old-fashioned self-reflection and can send you lots of self-love and self-trust energy as you…
Read MoreEp #173: Getting Anchored with Ali Zamora, NP
I am beyond delighted to share a conversation with one of my Anchored clients with you this week. Ali Zamora is a nurse practitioner in family medicine who works in San Bernardino County, California. Her story is an incredible case study in overcoming codependency that I know you’ll all find super inspiring, and she’s here…
Read MoreRegret is Self-Abandonment
Regret is to feel sorry, disappointed, distressed or remorseful about the past. To remember with a feeling of loss or sorrow. To mourn. Well jeez, that’s dire. Regret is some heavy business. When we are living in regret, we are abandoning ourselves. We are abandoning and exiling the version of us that made those decisions.…
Read MoreEp #172: Showing Up for You and Your Nervous System in Tragedy
Given what’s going on in the world right now: the racist-fueled murders in Buffalo and California, the murder of children and teachers in Texas, the ongoing war in Ukraine, and attacks on women’s and LGBTQ+ rights, all during a continuing global pandemic, it’s vital to pause and acknowledge these horrifying tragedies. This week, I wanted…
Read MoreEmotionally Immature Parents
Often at the core of our codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing habits are emotionally immature parents. Our parents are older than us, and as children, we would understandably look to them for wisdom and guidance. But parents are fallible human people like us too. They have their own baggage, trauma, issues. They have their own upbringing…
Read MoreEp #171: Rescuing vs Supporting
One key component of codependent thinking is the misguided belief that it’s our job to rescue others. The trope of the rescuer has us operating and giving, even when we’re running on empty, and while this seems like a worthwhile and honorable endeavor, the truth is there’s a fine line between attempting to rescue those…
Read MoreEp #170: Do I Stay or Do I Go? (Part 2)
In the first part of our relationship mini-series last week, you learned that I can’t actually tell you whether to stay or go when the going gets tough in relationships. However, what I can do is take a deep dive into the science behind relationships and guide you through some questions that will spark self-reflection…
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