Posts by Victoria Albina
Ep #187: Drama, Drama, Drama
Drama is a topic that’s near and dear to the hearts of all of us emotional outsourcers, a.k.a. those of us with codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing thought habits. If you feel like you can’t seem to get off the proverbial struggle bus, or often find yourself in the center of a drama tornado, you’re in…
Read MoreEp #186: Getting Anchored: Natalie’s Experience
It’s one thing to hear my experience of being mired in codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing ways and going on a journey of healing, but it’s another to hear from folks who have done the deep dive and decided it was worth it to make huge changes to live the way they dream of. So this…
Read MoreEp #185: Disorganized Attachment
Over the past two weeks, we’ve been discussing attachment and how changeable our habits are in this area, and we’ve taken a deep dive into anxious and avoidant attachment, which sets us up wonderfully to discuss what many in the psychological wellness world call the most complex of the attachment habits: disorganized attachment. So many…
Read MoreYour Future Self
The concept of the future self is the version of yourself that is yet to be. We all talk about our future self all the time, but in this unintentional way. “Next week, I’m going to… In a month, when we go on vacation… When I graduate my PhD, I will… Someday, when they change,…
Read MoreEp #184: Avoidant Attachment
Last week, I shared a replay of an oldie but goodie episode all about attachment theory to give you a primer on all things attachment styles, because this week’s episode is inspired by a listener wanting to know more, specifically about avoidant and disorganized attachment styles. And you already know that I love it when…
Read MoreEp #183: Getting Anchored: Attachment Styles
This week, I’m sharing one of my all-time favorite episodes from the podcast all about attachment. This is the ultimate nerdy 101 on a theoretical framework that has been one of the most helpful for me and my clients in evaluating and understanding our habitual thinking, and we’re diving into the basics today so you…
Read MoreLoving Your Past Self, Living with Compassion
Let’s delve into the concept of our past self when we start to learn to live in a new way. While it’s possible to ditch our old codependent, perfectionist, and people pleasing thought habits—it’s super common to get really down on ourselves during the process. We beat ourselves up when we learn new things, new…
Read MoreEp #182: Using Magic for Healing, Connection, and Making Heart-Centered Decisions with Sarah Gottesdiener
This week, I’m delighted to share a conversation I had with Sarah Gottesdiener of the Moonbeaming podcast: a show for the modern witch and magical critical thinker. We had a conversation over on her podcast about all things nervous system healing, codependency, and the patriarchy, and we’re continuing our discussion here. Sarah is a phenomenal…
Read MoreHow to Shift Your Experience of Resistance (Pt 2)
Often, in the #spiritual and wellness worlds, the term “resistance” is used as a way to blame and often shame folks when our nervous system says no, while our brains say, “Sure, yeah, okay, I’ll do that.” This resistance comes up when we want to make new thought work stick. When we want to start…
Read MoreEp #181: How to Shift Your Experience of Resistance (Part 2)
Last week, we talked in depth about the popular and problematic use of the term resistance, often in the spiritual and wellness world, as a way to blame and often shame folks when our nervous system says, “That sounds terrible…” while our brains say, “Sure, okay, I’ll do that…” So, this week, we’re getting into…
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