Posts by Victoria Albina

We are well into the month of March, and if you’ve found that the goals you set as your New Year’s resolutions have fallen by the wayside, you are not alone. When we’re living with codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing habits, too often we’re not truly focused on our own internal motivations with goal setting, and…

I’ve recently been getting a spike in messages from all of you asking for directions on where to go to learn all about the thought work protocol I talk about so often here on the podcast. It’s a topic that is weaved into every aspect of my work but to give you a go-to episode…

Do you ever find yourself slipping into a martyr role? Is self-sacrifice a way of living for you, or do you maybe see this behavior in someone you love? This was my experience for such a long time, where being a fixer for everyone was a way for me to feel great and avoid looking…

As humans who sometimes struggle to manage our emotions and voice them, and especially so for folks dealing with trauma, it’s no surprise that we use buffering as a way to make those uncomfortable feelings go away. However, we all know that buffering is never a long-term solution for managing our emotions, so is there…

Do you habitually put off tasks by telling yourself that you “work best under pressure”? Does it feel vitally important that every task you set out to do is perfect or worth creating tons of pressure around? If you find yourself nodding along, resonating with this narrative, pressurized perfectionist procrastination may be an underlying root…

Mindfulness is a big component of what I talk about here on the podcast and in my work with clients because bringing that level of awareness is vital to our healing. And so, you might imagine that I’m a huge proponent of meditation – and I am – but today, we’re talking about why it’s…

Does life feel like a collection of problems right now? The habit of being problem-focused is something I used to do myself for so long, and it’s something I see in my clients pretty much every single day. But when you’re out in the world labeling the circumstances in your life as problems, how does…

Does the notion of trying to manage other people’s moods and emotions for them sound familiar? Maybe it happens with a family member, a friend, or your partner, where you try to make them laugh if they’re upset, or do your best to be good so your home feels safer. In these types of situations…