Posts by Victoria Albina

Codependency, perfectionism, and people pleasing are just a few behaviors we lean on to cope with feelings of criticism, judgment, and shame. They’re survival skills that help us tread the waters when we feel like we’re drowning, but while they’re coping mechanisms that work temporarily, they often leave us totally exhausted. This week, I’m speaking…

I’ve been looking for new and creative ways to revisit the topics I’ve covered here on the podcast, so I asked my Anchored folks what their favorites have been. The winner was an episode from a year and a half ago all about being the cake, and whether this is brand new to you or…

As a birth doula, abortion doula, hospice nurse, and now coach, being able to guide and support those who are transitioning from one way of being into another is an honor. However, with transitions come grief, and whether it relates to death or non-death losses, it’s a topic we don’t talk about enough. That’s why…

Offering unsolicited advice is a habit that can so easily go unnoticed. For me personally, it always stemmed from a genuine desire to help or connect with others, and often felt like I was just bursting at the seams to share everything I knew from a nice, loving, or generous place. However, what we don’t…

Were you raised by emotionally immature parents? Do you have a niggling feeling you might be an emotionally immature parent? Are the challenges that you faced in your childhood coming up in the course of parenting your kiddos or in reparenting yourself?  Even the most emotionally stable among us will have times when we can’t…

The world we live in makes it pretty challenging for us to feel truly well. When we constantly receive messages about how we’re broken, wrong, or need to change, and all of that is layered with the anxiety of needing to get it all perfect, what we can do to feel better? This week, I’m…

By now, you’ll know that geeking out is very much my thing. You might even say it’s in my chart to be a nerd. And this week, I’m delighted to have you listen in as I get my astrocartography reading from psychic medium, astrologer, and intuitive energy healer, Steffi, a.k.a The Spirit Sis. Astrocartography is…

If you’ve ever felt like there’s something deeply wrong with you because you have emotional outsourcing ways of being, you are not alone. The popular narrative out there makes us believe we have defects in our character, when in reality, we need to examine our environment, socialization, conditioning, and the systems of oppression that we…

Last week, we dove into the common misconception that to need others is inherently wrong, bad, and codependent. We explored how needing another human is never a problem and how what actually breeds frustration and resentment around our needs comes from the way in which we express them, and this is our topic of conversation…

Many of us who tend to outsource our emotions often carry a lot of confusion and difficult emotions regarding our needs. We may question whether it’s even acceptable to have needs, or we may have become so skilled at disregarding them in favor of others that we might not even know how to recognize our…