In our conversation about self-care, I introduced you to the think-feel-act cycle last week and the importance of thinking about your thinking to evaluate and understand them better. Today, we’re diving into the second part of this cycle; feeling. It’s vital to understand how our feelings play a part in our results and in going…

Last week, we talked about the importance of showing up for your self-care from a loving place. I’ve had many clients in the past who show up saying they want to lose 10 pounds. We work together and they lose that weight. But then their target weight drops another five pounds, and the cycle goes…

The topic of self-care is so prevalent in our culture right now, and it’s being marketed to us in a thousand ways. We all absolutely deserve self-care, but what I see is a confused message and understanding of what it truly means. You might think of a bubble bath, getting a manicure, or going out…

We’ve been talking about communication in the last few episodes, and today we’re touching on a communication habit that I see so many clients struggle with. Many of us don’t know how to switch from indirect to direct communication, and I’m constantly trying to shift my own communication patterns (with lots of self-compassion, of course) to…

How we talk to ourselves impacts how we see the world and our place in it. Unsurprisingly, most of us are walking around with self-talk that’s not serving us, often stemming from thought patterns we picked up as children or from difficult past experiences. By replaying these negative tapes in our minds – “I’m not…

Communication. It’s a relatively plain-sounding word for something that encompasses so much of what we humans spend our time, energy, and thoughts on! Because communication is such a core part of what we do to connect with ourselves and other humans, I wanted to dedicate a three-part series to the topic. So keep your eyes…

Building on last week’s episode about codependency, today we’re talking about codependent thinking – a thought pattern that grows out of this behavior and shapes our relationship to ourselves and others – and how to move out of those patterns. When our brains are used to codependent thinking, we’re used to hanging our self-worth and…

Connection is a vital ingredient for a healthy, happy human life. Our relationships with others can be uplifting and fun in good times and safe havens in tougher ones. But it’s important to remember that relationships of all types should consist of autonomous people coming together to respect and support each other – rather than…

Last week, we talked about emotional consent and why asking people if they want your input before speaking can be such a supportive practice. Building on that, today we’re talking about the opposite side of this interaction and being the person who’s sharing. If your conversational partner asks you for emotional consent before sharing their…