Posts by Victoria Albina

Ep #108: Wanting a Goal vs. Wanting a Feeling

Wanting a Goal vs. Wanting a Feeling

We are well into the month of March, and if you’ve found that the goals you set as your New Year’s resolutions have fallen by the wayside, you are not alone. When we’re living with codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing habits, too often we’re not truly focused on our own internal motivations with goal setting, and…

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Self-Care: Why Your Intentions Matter


Take a break. You deserve it. While yes, you deserve self-care, every creature does, the commodification of it often leaves us with some confused messages and understanding, and a propensity to beat ourselves up for not doing all of the things. Self-care is all the rage these days. I’m a huge proponent of you learning…

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Thought Work 101: A How-To Guide

thought work 101

The Thought Work Protocol is a framework I use in my coaching practice. It’s based in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, a top-down approach to understanding how humans operate in the world. With my clients I pair this top-down, brain-to-body framework with a somatic, body-based approach.  Our nervous system runs the show too, our habitual experience of life…

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Ep #107: Thought Work 101

Thought Work 101

I’ve recently been getting a spike in messages from all of you asking for directions on where to go to learn all about the thought work protocol I talk about so often here on the podcast. It’s a topic that is weaved into every aspect of my work but to give you a go-to episode…

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Ep #106: Self-Sacrifice


Do you ever find yourself slipping into a martyr role? Is self-sacrifice a way of living for you, or do you maybe see this behavior in someone you love? This was my experience for such a long time, where being a fixer for everyone was a way for me to feel great and avoid looking…

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Ep #105: Buffering vs. Conscious Distraction

Buffering vs. Conscious Distraction

As humans who sometimes struggle to manage our emotions and voice them, and especially so for folks dealing with trauma, it’s no surprise that we use buffering as a way to make those uncomfortable feelings go away. However, we all know that buffering is never a long-term solution for managing our emotions, so is there…

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Ep #104: Pressured Perfectionist Procrastination

Pressured Perfectionist Procrastination

Do you habitually put off tasks by telling yourself that you “work best under pressure”? Does it feel vitally important that every task you set out to do is perfect or worth creating tons of pressure around? If you find yourself nodding along, resonating with this narrative, pressurized perfectionist procrastination may be an underlying root…

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Ep #103: Meditation Doesn’t Work for Everyone

Meditation Doesn’t Work for Everyone

Mindfulness is a big component of what I talk about here on the podcast and in my work with clients because bringing that level of awareness is vital to our healing. And so, you might imagine that I’m a huge proponent of meditation – and I am – but today, we’re talking about why it’s…

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Ep #102: What if It’s Not a Problem?

What if It’s Not a Problem?

Does life feel like a collection of problems right now? The habit of being problem-focused is something I used to do myself for so long, and it’s something I see in my clients pretty much every single day. But when you’re out in the world labeling the circumstances in your life as problems, how does…

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Ep #101: Managing Other People’s Emotions

Managing Other People’s Emotions

Does the notion of trying to manage other people’s moods and emotions for them sound familiar? Maybe it happens with a family member, a friend, or your partner, where you try to make them laugh if they’re upset, or do your best to be good so your home feels safer. In these types of situations…

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