managing your mind
Expectations and the “How-To” Guide to Other Humans
Most of us run around this world all day with a thousand thoughts about how other people should be behaving. It’s so common to have a long list of things we expect from others, and it’s just as common to not tell them about the expectations we secretly have for them in our minds. We…
Read MoreCoping Mechanisms and Obsessive Thoughts
Functional medicine is so much more than choking down a fistful of supplements every day or doing a dozen lab tests. I believe deeply in root cause medicine. And the longer I do this work, the more clarity I have that self-love is the key to healing. It is only from a place of true…
Read MoreNegative Self-Talk
We’ve all done it. we’ve all heard ourselves say, “Oh, I’m the kind of person who doesn’t eat vegetables, who doesn’t work out, who doesn’t finish what I started, whose always late, who doesn’t drink water, who always procrastinates, who gets angry at the drop of a hat, who’s always anxious, who is a workaholic,…
Read MoreStress Response Cycle
Stress. We’re all awash with it in this day and age. We’re even more aware of it with everything going on right now. While our actual lives are rarely in danger, our bodies can feel like we’re about to be killed and eaten. And they respond how they’re supposed to be flooding our perfect little…
Read MoreHow to Stop Worrying for Good
Few things are as ubiquitous as worry. We all say it. We all do it. And it steals your joy, my darling. Worry takes you out of the present moment and keeps you from taking action to make your life the intentional thoughtful life you dream of living. Today, I’ll be detailing the steps you…
Read MoreWorry and Your Nervous System
Do you find yourself rolling around in worry, not taking action in your life or spinning in your thoughts about what a symptom or a situation could mean, feeling paralyzed by not knowing the future, spending your time now worrying about something that might happen, or might not? Worry is so common and it keeps…
Read MoreBuffering
Our society teaches us, in so many direct and insidious ways, that there is no need to sit with painful feelings. That you can pop a pill, have a drink, eat an indulgent food, fire off an email or a comment online and all those challenging feelings will just melt away. But the truth is,…
Read MoreFuture Tripping
I’ve been thinking a lot about future-tripping, also called anticipatory anxiety. Those times when we get so lost in worrying about the future and playing out different future scenarios, often the most doom and gloom filled ones, that we lose out on today. This used to be my brain’s favorite distraction technique, to keep…
Read MoreYou Don’t Have To (You Get To) Change Your Story
Have you been rolling around in “have-to” stories? Are you feeling burdened by all the things you “have to” do today? You’re not alone. It’s so easy to get wrapped up in the stories of the things you “have to” do—from brushing your teeth or following a specific nutrition plan, to meditating or showing up…
Read MoreYou Can Decide to Choose Suffering- Or Not!
How can we reduce our suffering? Life is 50% joy and 50% suffering, so how can we accept that fact and stop rolling around in painful stories that happened in the past? The Buddhist concept of the second arrow brings helpful wisdom that we can all benefit from. Learning this concept can help you notice…
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