Posts by Victoria Albina
Showing Up For Your Nervous System In Tragedy
I’m not here to talk about a specific tragedy, but rather to talk about how we think about process, and sit with this level of grief, this level of tragedy. It starts with this: The purpose of thought-work is not to make us feel better. The purpose of thought-work is not to ignore what’s happening,…
Read MoreEp #176: Loving Your Past Self, Living with Compassion
When we start gaining awareness that it’s possible to ditch our old codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing thought habits, and we begin learning and living into new ways of being, it’s super common to get down on ourselves. We have a habit of speaking to and thinking of ourselves in such unkind and even cruel ways,…
Read MoreEp #175: Getting Anchored with Coach Molly Goodman
If you’ve spent a lifetime of time, energy, and effort seeking safety from other people and meticulously making sure everyone else is always looked after, but can’t shake the resentment and powerlessness that comes along with this habit, you’re not alone. The good news is that if what you’ve been doing so far hasn’t been…
Read MoreRescuing vs. Supporting
A key component of codependent thinking is the misguided belief that it is our job to rescue others. We’ll dive into the trope of the rescuer. Why and how we do it and what we can do instead of rescuing, which is to be supportive to the people we love. Codependent thinking is this really…
Read MoreEp #174: Polyvagal 101
Polyvagal theory and nervous system regulation have been a cornerstone of my medical practice in functional medicine and in my coaching work as a somatic life coach. I’ve talked a lot about polyvagal theory throughout these podcast episodes over the last three years, but I realized I’ve never done a full-on polyvagal 101, and it’s…
Read MoreDo I Stay or Do I Go in This Relationship? (Part 2)
Although I don’t have a crystal ball, and therefore can’t tell you whether to leave your relationship or not—what I can do is give you some information on the science behind relationships and attachment, can ask questions to spark some good old-fashioned self-reflection and can send you lots of self-love and self-trust energy as you…
Read MoreEp #173: Getting Anchored with Ali Zamora, NP
I am beyond delighted to share a conversation with one of my Anchored clients with you this week. Ali Zamora is a nurse practitioner in family medicine who works in San Bernardino County, California. Her story is an incredible case study in overcoming codependency that I know you’ll all find super inspiring, and she’s here…
Read MoreDo I Stay or Do I Go in This Relationship? (Part 1)
Let’s say you come up with some challenges in your relationship, and it can be so challenging to know what to do. Do you stick it through and make it to the other side of a rough path or do you cut and run? I wish I had the answer for you, my darling kitten.…
Read MoreRegret is Self-Abandonment
Regret is to feel sorry, disappointed, distressed or remorseful about the past. To remember with a feeling of loss or sorrow. To mourn. Well jeez, that’s dire. Regret is some heavy business. When we are living in regret, we are abandoning ourselves. We are abandoning and exiling the version of us that made those decisions.…
Read MoreEp #172: Showing Up for You and Your Nervous System in Tragedy
Given what’s going on in the world right now: the racist-fueled murders in Buffalo and California, the murder of children and teachers in Texas, the ongoing war in Ukraine, and attacks on women’s and LGBTQ+ rights, all during a continuing global pandemic, it’s vital to pause and acknowledge these horrifying tragedies. This week, I wanted…
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