Posts Tagged ‘thought work’
Glimmers: An Antidote to Triggers
The world right now can feel extra trigger-tastic as we spend so much time indoors, in our homes, with our partners, families, roommates, or on our own, in quarantine, a pandemic swirling outside. If you have codependent thought habits, or your quarantine pod is one where codependency, indirect communication, or other challenging relationship patterns are…
Read MoreUnderstanding Your Desire to Control
Control is the cousin of uncertainty thinking. This thought habit doesn’t serve you, my darling one, but comes from a place of self-love nonetheless. While you can’t control the world, the thing you can control is so important to be conscious of. To have and hold at top of mind. And that, my darling, is…
Read MoreUnconditional Love: Because it Feels Good
One of the most important things I can share with you, my darling, is the power of unconditional love for yourself and all the people in your life. Unconditional love doesn’t mean self-sacrifice, or condoning, or approving of behaviors or beliefs that are in line with your own. Unconditional love is a gift you give…
Read MoreSelf-Compassion and Dead-End Thinking
Self-compassion. How many times have you heard that term and kind of rushed on by it? I know it took me years to truly understand what it means to have compassion for myself and to act with self-compassion, to see my own pain and to attend to it deeply and with care, the way I…
Read MoreBeing Okay with Being Wrong: It’s Liberating!
Who amongst us likes to be told that we’re wrong? If you’re nodding along going, “Yeah, I love being wrong,” then you, my love, are in the minority of humans. And yet, when we’re working to improve our lives, to put an end to painful patterns like codependent thinking, self-doubt, anxiety, and to work towards…
Read MoreWhy Wishing Is Not Enough: Shift from Wishing to Acting
How often do you find yourself saying, “I wish things were different?” Have you ever stopped to contemplate the effect of all that wishing thinking on your day-to-day life, how it takes you out of the present, and that wishing becomes the action you’re taking? I’ve been paying a lot of attention to this language…
Read MoreThe Next Right Thing: Take Courageous Action
In order to make your wildest dreams come true, you get to learn how to face your fears, understand that failure is perfect, natural, normal, and a thing to get really good at doing and feeling. Then you get to do the next right thing. Turning that to-do list into action by embracing fear and…
Read MoreBoundaries and the Holidays: Notice Your Internal Limit
Holidays with family can be quite challenging, particularly if you’re on a path of healing, of finding self-love, of figuring out how to support your inner child and reparent yourself, if you’re learning how to deeply attend to your own self-care as an adult in the world. Being with family can be complex, for sure,…
Read MoreAction: Why You Do the Things You Do
Think, feel, act. It’s what we do as humans. Once you really understand this cycle, you can use this tool, think-feel-act, to not only understand why you do what you do, but to get in touch with the thoughts and feelings that lead you to take action for your own life. If you want: More…
Read MoreFeeling Your Feels: Listen to Your Body
It is vital, grounding, and empowering for us to feel our feelings in our bodies. A feeling is an emotional state, a reaction. In the thought work protocol we use, we recognize that our thoughts create our feelings, and we work with each feeling as a single word. Bored, angry, frustrated, happy, calm, peaceful, annoyed,…
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