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Polyvagal 101: Get to Know Your Nervous System

Your nervous system and its regulation and dysregulation can be mysterious buck luckily we love a helpful nerd alert around here. Let’s go over what polyvagal theory is, why we care, how it impacts our lives, and how it can be an important vessel for getting to know ourselves better.  Polyvagal theory, as we think…

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Showing Up For Your Nervous System In Tragedy

how to show up for your nervous system in times of tragedy

I’m not here to talk about a specific tragedy, but rather to talk about how we think about process, and sit with this level of grief, this level of tragedy. It starts with this: The purpose of thought-work is not to make us feel better. The purpose of thought-work is not to ignore what’s happening,…

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Rescuing vs. Supporting

rescuing vs supporting

A key component of codependent thinking is the misguided belief that it is our job to rescue others. We’ll dive into the trope of the rescuer. Why and how we do it and what we can do instead of rescuing, which is to be supportive to the people we love. Codependent thinking is this really…

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Do I Stay or Do I Go in This Relationship? (Part 2)

Although I don’t have a crystal ball, and therefore can’t tell you whether to leave your relationship or not—what I can do is give you some information on the science behind relationships and attachment, can ask questions to spark some good old-fashioned self-reflection and can send you lots of self-love and self-trust energy as you…

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Do I Stay or Do I Go in This Relationship? (Part 1)

Let’s say you come up with some challenges in your relationship, and it can be so challenging to know what to do. Do you stick it through and make it to the other side of a rough path or do you cut and run? I wish I had the answer for you, my darling kitten.…

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Regret is Self-Abandonment

regret is self abandonment

Regret is to feel sorry, disappointed, distressed or remorseful about the past. To remember with a feeling of loss or sorrow. To mourn. Well jeez, that’s dire. Regret is some heavy business. When we are living in regret, we are abandoning ourselves.  We are abandoning and exiling the version of us that made those decisions.…

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Emotionally Immature Parents

emotionally immature parents

Often at the core of our codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing habits are emotionally immature parents.  Our parents are older than us, and as children, we would understandably look to them for wisdom and guidance. But parents are fallible human people like us too. They have their own baggage, trauma, issues. They have their own upbringing…

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Being The Cake: Let Others Be the Icing

being the cake

I came up with a saying some years ago around relationships. And as always, that can mean dating or partnerships, friendships, work-spouse relationship, parent-child, and that is this: I want to invite you to be the cake and to let everyone else in your life be the icing on the perfect cake that is you.…

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Healing the Self-Abandonment Cycle

healing the self-abandonment cycle

The self-abandonment cycle happens when we overdo for others, we over-function, we do things people haven’t asked us to do, things people could totally do for themselves. We live their lives for us. And we do this from our codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing habits unwittingly because we learned in childhood that this is how you…

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The Self-Abandonment Cycle

self-abandonment cycle

I want to talk about how our conflict aversion or subtle conflict creation habits play out in a self-abandonment cycle and impact our self-concept— the way we think about and relate to ourselves—and thus the people we love.  Those of us living with codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing thought habits, where we define codependent thinking as…

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Victoria Albina Breathwork Meditation Facilitator

Hello hello my love.

I'm so glad you're here to download your free meditations to help you connect inward to calm and soothe your perfect mind, body and spirit.

These tools will bring you more awareness of your own inner workings, so you can break free of codependency and live life with intention, freedom and self-love.

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