Why Wishing Is Not Enough: Shift from Wishing to Acting

why wishing isn't enough

How often do you find yourself saying, “I wish things were different?” Have you ever stopped to contemplate the effect of all that wishing thinking on your day-to-day life, how it takes you out of the present, and that wishing becomes the action you’re taking? I’ve been paying a lot of attention to this language…

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The Next Right Thing: Take Courageous Action

take courageous action

In order to make your wildest dreams come true, you get to learn how to face your fears, understand that failure is perfect, natural, normal, and a thing to get really good at doing and feeling. Then you get to do the next right thing. Turning that to-do list into action by embracing fear and…

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Choosing the Wrong People: Why You’re Not Broken

you aren't broken

For years, I was told that I had a broken picker—that I picked the “wrong people” to date, picked the wrong friends, the wrong jobs and confidants because my picker was broken. And I believed it. I was in a challenging place in my life, a vulnerable-feeling place, and I believed what I was told…

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Of Course They Did: A Tool for Accepting People

a femme on a brownstone stoop thinking of course they did

Back in the mid-90s my sister, Maria Eugenia, and I came up with this super helpful way of navigating the world together. We didn’t realize we were coming up with an absolutely brilliant coaching tool but we were! So this tool is a way to live in true acceptance of the people in our lives…

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Curiosity Rules: Why It’s so Important to Get Curious

why do we need to get curious?

Humans are such funny animals. We are born these wildly curious creatures who put literally everything we can reach into our mouths. We explore the world with this passion and excitement. We are born soooo curious, so comfortable in not knowing anything. Curiosity is powerful. It helps us live with a big open heart, trust…

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Feeling Your Feels: Listen to Your Body

feeling your feels

It is vital, grounding, and empowering for us to feel our feelings in our bodies. A feeling is an emotional state, a reaction. In the thought work protocol we use, we recognize that our thoughts create our feelings, and we work with each feeling as a single word. Bored, angry, frustrated, happy, calm, peaceful, annoyed,…

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Top Tips to Heal a Codependent Friendship

You can be codependent in relationships other than romantic ones. It is common for folks with codependent thinking habits to bring those same habits to our friendships. What do you do if a friend doesn’t give as much as you do, if you feel taken advantage of in a friendship, if a friend doesn’t text…

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How to Bring Awareness to Your Thoughts

bring awareness to your thoughts

The thought work protocol is how we put the think-feel-act cycle into action to change our lives. The think-feel-act cycle is based in neuroscience, cognitive behavioral and somatic theories. This protocol is applicable to literally everything in this beautiful life and has been a vital part of my healing my mind, body, and spirit. Once you…

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Somatics 101: Learn Transformative Somatic Practices

somatics 101

The field of somatics is where this bodymind connection is studied and explored and given the space to be felt and understood. It can be summarized as Susan McConnel says, in the felt shift from “I have a body” to “I AM my body.” The changes that I see in my clients when we bring…

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Wanting a Goal vs. Wanting a Feeling

wanting a goal vs. wanting a feeling

The kind of thinking, “I’ll be happy when,” can be so problematic because of what it does to the now. It takes us out of this present moment, our present feeling. It posits the thought error that you will feel something different when your circumstances change. It’s disempowering and leads to so much suffering now…

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