Posts by Victoria Albina

If you’ve ever felt like there’s something deeply wrong with you because you have emotional outsourcing ways of being, you are not alone. The popular narrative out there makes us believe we have defects in our character, when in reality, we need to examine our environment, socialization, conditioning, and the systems of oppression that we…

Last week, we dove into the common misconception that to need others is inherently wrong, bad, and codependent. We explored how needing another human is never a problem and how what actually breeds frustration and resentment around our needs comes from the way in which we express them, and this is our topic of conversation…

Many of us who tend to outsource our emotions often carry a lot of confusion and difficult emotions regarding our needs. We may question whether it’s even acceptable to have needs, or we may have become so skilled at disregarding them in favor of others that we might not even know how to recognize our…

Let’s talk about sex, baby! We love diving into all things relationships, pleasure, and joy here on Feminist Wellness, but one aspect that we haven’t touched on yet is sex. We’re all about reconnecting with our desires and showing up fully in our power, but how can we expect ourselves to do so if there’s…

Do you feel stymied by the question, “What do you need?” Many of us don’t know how to answer this question not because we don’t have any needs, but because we don’t know how to advocate for them. My guest this week is here to guide us through a process of getting back into partnership…

I asked the folks inside Anchored which theme that I talk about most encompasses their experience of emotional outsourcing: codependent, perfectionist, people-pleasing thinking, and the ramifications of experiencing and being in the world in this way. The resounding answer was the self-abandonment cycle. Last week, I offered a refresher on what the self-abandonment cycle entails…

I recently turned to the folks inside Anchored to ask them if there was an episode or a set of episodes of the podcast that were emblematic of the Anchored journey. Over and over again, the resounding answer was that they didn’t realize they were in a self-abandonment cycle until they joined, and I’m guessing…

Anchored is the space for me and my clients to go deep. I bring my training in somatics (or body-based practices) and mindset coaching to our weekly calls. This way, my clients can feel like every week of their six months inside Anchored is completely life-changing. We had the most epic coaching call the other…

Receiving support, kindness, love, and care and really letting it in has been the deepest work of my lifetime. As a human with emotional outsourcing habits, which often looks like living from a sense of unworthiness so many of us are subconsciously guided by, it can feel extremely challenging to receive good things. If you…

I’m delighted to bring you an interview this week with one of my recent Anchored graduates, Ruth Duren. Her transformation is nothing short of mind-blowing, and I love sharing empowering stories just like Ruth’s because I know first-hand how lonely and exhausting it can feel living neck-deep in emotional outsourcing.  If you’re living with codependent,…