Posts Tagged ‘unstuck’
How to Stop Worrying for Good
Few things are as ubiquitous as worry. We all say it. We all do it. And it steals your joy, my darling. Worry takes you out of the present moment and keeps you from taking action to make your life the intentional thoughtful life you dream of living. Today, I’ll be detailing the steps you…
Read MoreWorry and Your Nervous System
Do you find yourself rolling around in worry, not taking action in your life or spinning in your thoughts about what a symptom or a situation could mean, feeling paralyzed by not knowing the future, spending your time now worrying about something that might happen, or might not? Worry is so common and it keeps…
Read MoreBuffering
Our society teaches us, in so many direct and insidious ways, that there is no need to sit with painful feelings. That you can pop a pill, have a drink, eat an indulgent food, fire off an email or a comment online and all those challenging feelings will just melt away. But the truth is,…
Read MoreFuture Tripping
I’ve been thinking a lot about future-tripping, also called anticipatory anxiety. Those times when we get so lost in worrying about the future and playing out different future scenarios, often the most doom and gloom filled ones, that we lose out on today. This used to be my brain’s favorite distraction technique, to keep…
Read MoreFuture Self Planning
One of the lessons that has been life-changing for me comes from cognitive-behavioral science. It’s that we have thoughts based on our history, our experiences, our socialization, our fears, worries, and our thoughts create our feelings. We take action based on our feelings and those actions create our lived experience in this world. It is…
Read MoreAnalysis Paralysis
When we don’t manage our minds, our minds manage us. When we don’t get clear on what we want first and foremost for ourselves, everything looks like a golden ticket, a great opportunity. Our vision is clouded and our health can suffer. In contrast, when you plan what you’re going to think ahead of…
Read MoreBoundaries
So many of us are giving our energy away to people and things that don’t serve us. We only have so much energy for each day and when we give it away or let it leak out of us by not taking care of ourselves first, we often don’t have anything left for ourselves. There’s…
Read MoreHow to Conquer Anxiety
Anxiety is an exhausting life-stealer. It can feel like a wall between you, the people you love, and the life you want to live. It doesn’t have to be that way. In this article, I’ll explain the science of anxiety and what’s happening in your brain when you feel that rush of tension in your…
Read MoreBe Your Own Watcher
Mindfulness is about getting present to what is and accepting life on life’s terms. It’s about getting in touch with ourselves and the world around us in new and deeper ways. And it’s about creating cognitive distance between ourselves and our thoughts. This lets us ask the simple question, does this thought I’m having serve…
Read MoreHow We Communicate with Ourselves
How we communicate with ourselves encompasses how we talk to ourselves, how we treat ourselves, and the images we display to ourselves. These are all modes of communication with an inward focus. I used to have an old cassette tape in my head that said I was always on the verge of being in trouble. As…
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