Posts Tagged ‘stuck’
Worry and Your Nervous System
Do you find yourself rolling around in worry, not taking action in your life or spinning in your thoughts about what a symptom or a situation could mean, feeling paralyzed by not knowing the future, spending your time now worrying about something that might happen, or might not? Worry is so common and it keeps…
Read MoreBuffering
Our society teaches us, in so many direct and insidious ways, that there is no need to sit with painful feelings. That you can pop a pill, have a drink, eat an indulgent food, fire off an email or a comment online and all those challenging feelings will just melt away. But the truth is,…
Read MoreSix Surprising Codependent Habits
I lived the first 30 years or so of my life rolling around in codependent thought patterns and habits, until I realized how deeply this way of thinking and showing up in the world had seeped into my mind, into my thoughts and feelings, leading me to act in ways that I now see as…
Read MoreFuture Self Planning
One of the lessons that has been life-changing for me comes from cognitive-behavioral science. It’s that we have thoughts based on our history, our experiences, our socialization, our fears, worries, and our thoughts create our feelings. We take action based on our feelings and those actions create our lived experience in this world. It is…
Read MoreBe Your Own Watcher
Mindfulness is about getting present to what is and accepting life on life’s terms. It’s about getting in touch with ourselves and the world around us in new and deeper ways. And it’s about creating cognitive distance between ourselves and our thoughts. This lets us ask the simple question, does this thought I’m having serve…
Read MoreHow We Communicate with Ourselves
How we communicate with ourselves encompasses how we talk to ourselves, how we treat ourselves, and the images we display to ourselves. These are all modes of communication with an inward focus. I used to have an old cassette tape in my head that said I was always on the verge of being in trouble. As…
Read MoreCodependent Habits and How to Heal Them
Codependent thinking is common for so many of us. This is when we put someone else’s needs ahead of our own and then resent them for it. You can begin to shift out of the codependent thinking pattern and into a mutually interdependent way of thinking, feeling, and showing up in the world. As adults,…
Read MoreReparenting in Action-Top Tips and Methods
How to Begin Reparenting Yourself Reparenting ourselves is a daily dedication to living our lives in alignment with our goals. Reparenting ourselves is when we do the work of actively showing up for the child selves within us. We ask them what they want and need and we support those parts of ourselves with love,…
Read MoreBegin Reparenting Your Inner Child Today
Reparenting your inner child can relieve burdens that you’ve carried for far too long. When our wounded inner child is at the helm of our emotions, we can feel like we’re waiting around to be rescued, to be saved, for someone outside of us to take care of us. We can be quick to anger,…
Read MoreLearn How to Enter Emotional Adulthood
Our inner child is that child part of us that continues to inhabit us into adulthood and can guide us to act in ways that we may not love as adults. When we don’t learn to regulate our emotions as children, we can carry those lessons of feeling disappointed or anxious into adulthood. When we’re…
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