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Unconditional Love: Because it Feels Good

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One of the most important things I can share with you, my darling, is the power of unconditional love for yourself and all the people in your life. Unconditional love doesn’t mean self-sacrifice, or condoning, or approving of behaviors or beliefs that are in line with your own.  Unconditional love is a gift you give…

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Self-Compassion and Dead-End Thinking

self-compassion

Self-compassion. How many times have you heard that term and kind of rushed on by it? I know it took me years to truly understand what it means to have compassion for myself and to act with self-compassion, to see my own pain and to attend to it deeply and with care, the way I…

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Future Self Planning

Future Self Planning

One of the lessons that has been life-changing for me comes from cognitive-behavioral science. It’s that we have thoughts based on our history, our experiences, our socialization, our fears, worries, and our thoughts create our feelings. We take action based on our feelings and those actions create our lived experience in this world. It is…

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Analysis Paralysis

Analysis Paralysis

  When we don’t manage our minds, our minds manage us. When we don’t get clear on what we want first and foremost for ourselves, everything looks like a golden ticket, a great opportunity. Our vision is clouded and our health can suffer. In contrast, when you plan what you’re going to think ahead of…

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Being Okay with Being Wrong: It’s Liberating!

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Who amongst us likes to be told that we’re wrong? If you’re nodding along going, “Yeah, I love being wrong,” then you, my love, are in the minority of humans. And yet, when we’re working to improve our lives, to put an end to painful patterns like codependent thinking, self-doubt, anxiety, and to work towards…

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Fatigue – Adrenal Edition

fatigue and adrenal

Our world has changed in amazing and disruptive ways in the last 20 years. The advent of cell phones and blue screens in every room has led to information and sensory overload. We’re eating more food-like products that are leading to more and more inflammation. Our bodies haven’t evolved to manage how much we’re being…

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Your Why and Polyvagal Theory: Body/Mind Connection

your why and polyvagal theory

It’s easy to make a list of the 473 things you want to accomplish in a day, a month, a year, or even a lifetime. And often it’s harder to get those things off the list. Especially those things that feel big, challenging, failure prone, vulnerable-making. Even harder still when you’re not connected with your…

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My Vision for You This Season: Self-Love

self love

While we’ve likely never met, I love you. I love you because you’re perfect, whole, and amazing just as you are. And if you’re anything like me, all the messages from the world, from the patriarchy, from your culture and society, from your parents or family of origin convinced you that you are something other…

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Why Wishing Is Not Enough: Shift from Wishing to Acting

why wishing isn't enough

How often do you find yourself saying, “I wish things were different?” Have you ever stopped to contemplate the effect of all that wishing thinking on your day-to-day life, how it takes you out of the present, and that wishing becomes the action you’re taking? I’ve been paying a lot of attention to this language…

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