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Tis the season where, for many of us, our thoughts turn to making wildly perfectionistic and fantastical New Year resolutions. You’ve probably experienced setting these grand goals and giving up shortly after. And yet, we do this whole song and dance with ourselves year after year. This magical thinking only ever sets us up for…

In the spirit of the new year, which is just around the corner, my hope is for you to learn to meet your wants and needs in a way that feels aligned with your values and the kind of life you dream of living. So, we’re wrapping up our mini-series on wants and needs this…

Last week marked the first episode of a mini-series all about the emotional world of wants and needs. From a lifetime of codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing thinking, it’s no surprise we rarely get our most simple wants and needs met – or even know what they are – but you don’t have to let those…

Today marks the first episode in a series all about the emotional world of our wants and needs. As folks with codependent, people-pleasing, and perfectionist thought habits, we so often conflate our wants and needs, and many times we don’t even really know what they are. And my beauty, this is so damaging to your…

Last week, we dove into the moralistic binary framework of thinking that creates a whole bunch of different challenges for us. All-or-nothing thinking is a survival skill our brains developed to keep us safe, but my love, it’s limiting your world to old habits that are no longer serving you, and I want your life…

As we head into the holidays and the new year, my mind turns towards what I like to call the season of bountiful buffering. Following closely behind overeating, overdrinking, overspending, and subsequently beating ourselves up is the insidious all-or-nothing thinking that keeps us trapped, so this is what we’re diving into today. All-or-nothing thinking is…

It’s turkey day for those of us in the US, and this can mean a lot of talk about weight, how our bodies have changed during the pandemic, what we’re choosing to eat or not eat, and it can create a really hostile, triggering environment. If you’re finding your nervous system all fired up expecting…

As folks living with codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing thoughts, we tend to have a habit of all-or-nothing, black-and-white thinking, which can lead to us having a hard time accepting certain expressions of love. You might have a preference for loving and being loved, but we don’t want to box ourselves in with absolutes, so this…

When codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing thought habits are our norm, we feel a deep need to prove ourselves right and others wrong. This was most definitely my stance on life. If someone said something I deemed to be incorrect about anything, but especially about me, I had to correct them, didn’t I? I remember the…

Here on Feminist Wellness, we dive deep every single week into the painful and challenging things that those of us with codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing thought habits experience. This work is necessary when these patterns are all we know, but it’s also vital to highlight the good, to love up on and honor ourselves, so…