Posts by Victoria Albina

  I have the most special treat for you, my wonderful listeners, this week. I am finally and with so much pride introducing you to my wife, Billey Albina. I have been a relatively private person on this show and I don’t usually share about my personal life, but this beautiful relationship is something I…

  When someone compliments you, how do you feel? For many of us folks raised as women with people-pleasing tendencies, receiving compliments can feel like danger in the body. Even when the person’s intention was to make us feel wonderful and loved, it can still catch us off guard and leave us feeling exposed and…

The modern dating experience can be incredibly isolating, but you’re definitely not alone if you feel like you’re struggling. We’re fed an endless list of dumb dating rules that are born out of systems of oppression, and my guest today, Lily Womble, is an intersectional feminist dating coach who’s here to show us how to…

Is your identity defined by the ways you’re needed by others? How often do you catch yourself acting selflessly in an attempt to feel valued? Why does our need to be needed lead to a deep-seated sense of dissatisfaction? And how can we begin to define a new version of ourselves that doesn’t include being…

Is expressing your emotions wildly uncomfortable? Do you find yourself feeling confused or frustrated in situations that demand an emotional response? How did it come to be this way, and how can we access healing and reconnect with our feelings? I recently asked my Anchored members what they found to be the most challenging part…

I’ve had the honor of being a regular contributor to the Honeydew Me Podcast, hosted by Emma Norman and Cass Anderson. I was recently on the show to dive deep into somatics, sex, and feeling our feelings, and it was such a great conversation that I’m sharing that episode with you here. At Honeydew Me,…

Our values offer us a sense of being true to ourselves, which is critical for overcoming our emotional outsourcing habits of codependency, perfectionism, and people pleasing. Embracing our values is about shifting from external validation to internal authenticity, and journeying from societal imposition to personal liberation.  Your journey towards value alignment is also not just…

Many of us engage in the ritual of New Year’s resolutions without really questioning it. It’s just what we do, right? However, while some love using the concept of a clean slate at the start of a new year to recommit to their goals, others unwittingly use it to shame and blame themselves. As always,…

We are smack-dab in the middle of the holiday season, which for many of us means time with family. Whether you’re with your family of origin, your partner’s family, or your chosen family, there’s one thing families are known for doing: pushing our buttons. To help you navigate the holidays with more acceptance and ease…

We’ve had quite the foray into the topic of functional freeze, also known as somatic disconnection. We’ve spent a few episodes diving into what it is, real-life stories of how it came to be this way, and how to shift it, and I’ve since heard from several people who have requested I explore what happens…