Posts by Victoria Albina

Last week, you heard a refresher on the concept of the self-abandonment cycle – the habitual tendency to seek safety, belonging, and worth from external sources at the expense of our own well-being. This habit of over-functioning and overcompensating leaves us exhausted, resentful, and irritated, so what can we do to break free from this…

Many of us have received messages from society and systems of oppression that our authentic, most real, and embodied selves are simply not okay. Maybe you were told that you’re too loud, too quiet, too thin, too big, too much, or not enough. What’s logical then is for us to step away from being that…

Have you been doing the inner work to regulate your nervous system, feel your feelings, set boundaries, and speak your truth – but you’re wondering what life will actually look and feel like on the other side of all this work?  This week, I’m joined by a recent graduate of my Anchored program, Mary Angione,…

Why does it feel so cozy to think in extremes? To believe in an all-or-nothing story that is neither factual nor supportive? And how can we begin separating the truth from the polarized fear thoughts in our brains? All-or-nothing thinking is a habit we can fall into deeply without ever realizing it. While this place…

One of the vital ways we can work towards our goal of collective liberation is by working to unburden ourselves of the shame we carry around through this life. In last week’s episode, you heard my definition of shame and its interconnections with the nervous system and emotional outsourcing tendencies, and today, it’s time to…

Do you ever feel like shame is holding you back in life? Like there’s a subterranean force shaping your emotional landscape and interactions with the world? Where did you learn shame? And how might it be fueling your emotional outsourcing, and vice versa?  This week, I share how shame takes root in our formative years…

One of the biggest themes we talk about here on Feminist Wellness is living an intentional and authentic life where you’re tuned into what’s happening in your body, mind, spirit, and world. The vital next layer to this is slowing down enough to pay attention to the minutia of your life, and that includes your…

Does life feel like a set of constant problems are keeping you from living your dreams? Are you putting out fire after fire, moving fast and frenetically, often making mistakes and creating more problems? What if I told you this way of living was a choice, and you get to opt out? When stress, chaos,…

How often do you catch yourself thinking or saying out loud, “Ugh, I hate conflict?” I hear it from my clients in Anchored all the time, and my darling, of course you avoid conflict. There are a few reasons why conflict can feel like a serious problem, especially if you’re mired in emotional outsourcing habits,…

Have you ever wondered what becoming someone with a secure attachment style would be like? Does it seem like a reality only the unicorns in our world get to experience? What if I told you there’s not only hope, but that it’s totally feasible for you to develop a secure attachment style too? This week,…