Feminist Wellness Insights

with Victoria Albina, NP, MPH

Anatomy of an Apology

Anatomy of an Apology

There is a quiet epidemic I’ve noticed in my life coaching clients and saw in my patients, particularly my patients with GI issues. An epidemic of shame and guilt that keeps folks feeling small and from living into our truest power. That epidemic is summed up in two words, “I’m sorry.” I want to talk…

Accepting Our Racist Biases

For many White and White-passing folx starting the working of becoming anti-racist, we become so scared 😨 to do or say the wrong thing that we don’t do the work because we get stuck in that activated fear body.⁠ ⁠ And that’s where the work needs to start, to learn to be okay with being…


Co-regulation is a vital human function.⁣⁠⁣ ⁣ Co-regulation happens when our autonomic nervous systems attune to another person, and there is an energetic exchange that helps both creatures to get into ventral vagal, to feel safe, secure and grounded in the moment.⁣⁠⁣ ⁣⁠⁣ I say creatures because while most of us think of this as…

Bypassing a Challenging Feelings Makes it SO Much Harder to Change

If you’re White or White-passing and you’re starting to do the work of becoming anti-racist, you may feel a sense of urgency to change your thoughts 💭.⁠ ⁠ This is an attempt to create different feelings without really sitting with the painful 😖 truth.⁠ ⁠ It’s called emotional bypassing ⏭️.⁠ ⁠ And that simply doesn’t…

When You Stop People-Pleasing, People Aren’t Pleased! And that’s okay

When people are accustomed to you putting their needs and wants and whims ahead of yours, they likely won’t be delighted when you start to heal, grow and learn to put yourself first.⁣⁠ ⁣⁠ the people-you-used-to-pleased may have some feels about that…⁣⁠ ⁣⁠ and that’s okay.⁣⁠ ⁣⁠ truly.⁣⁠ ⁣⁠ i didn’t say it would be…
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When You Stop People Pleasing and People Aren’t Pleased

  We’ve talked a lot about people-pleasing in this blog. That insidious habit of thinking that we can affect or change how someone else thinks or feels about us by trying to read their mind, do what we think they want to us, which is always a projection of our own internal landscape. Your thoughts…
The Power of Thought Work in Becoming an Anti-Racist Ally and Accomplice

The Power of Thought Work in Becoming an Anti-Racist Ally and Accomplice

Today we’re going to get really real about racism. As a white Latina, working every day to understand, examine, and unlearn my own anti-black racism, to unpack and get clear on my own daily privilege. The privilege of passing and code switching and moving seamlessly between the white world and the Latinx world. I offer…
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How to Interrupt the People-Pleasing Cycle

My love, this blog goes live on June 4th 2020, on the heels of the murder of George Floyd, amidst national protests around systemic racism in the US. I thought a lot about whether or not to publish a blog this week, and I decided to put this out there, remedies to people pleasing, because…






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